Abortion … when you become a mother

It is often assumed that abortion is a medical procedure that is “reserved” for single people. However, in Canada, in 2015, 39.1% of abortions were carried out on women with at least one child *.

This figure is derived from data from the Canadian Health Information Institute (CIHI). *

This statistic is not surprising Anabelle Caron, community development coordinator at the Montreal Women’s Health Center. “Honestly, I would think it would be more,” he said. In consultation with a medical questionnaire for women who were preparing to have an abortion, Anabelle noted “very, very, very often” that she was dealing with mothers. “39.1% did not go down, I’m sure of that,” he said.

Positive test, negative reaction
“When I heard the news, I cried. It was the first time I found out about pregnancy and I was sad,” said Catherine **, a mother of three children.

Whether a person is a mother or not, a positive pregnancy test, when there is no desire to have children, has a bomb effect. Our world is falling apart. On the other hand, when a person becomes a mother, he knows better than anyone what the results mean. We know very well what it means to have a pregnancy, give birth. We also know what it’s like to be a mother – breastfeeding, lack of sleep, growing teeth, crisis to manage, management of daily life, lack of time …

Women who already have children and who have abortions, unlike women who don’t have children, know more about what she is giving up. “He has no less problems, he does not live less emotionally, but he is more confident with his decision, in the sense that he knows the burden that this child will carry in his life, in his family,” Anabelle Caron said.

That famous decision
“I find it ‘difficult’ for my life with two young babies. A third? Oh my God! I thought I would never survive it. At the same time, it was complicated. As soon as I knew that I had a little affair in me. It seemed to be a motherly instinct. “I’m very strong, no matter what path I think, it’s bad. Having a third child there, it will put a brothel in my life and not have it … I have not made peace with this idea,” Karine said with emotion.

Increases between ages 35-44 years

In Quebec, we do not have exact figures on the number of previous births experienced by women who use abortions, but we know that since the 2000s, there has been a declining trend in birth rates. induced abortion (abortion) among women in the age group of 15 to 34 and a slight increase in women in the age group of 35-44. (According to data from the Quebec Statistical Institute.)

Inevitably, abortion involves psychological processes. There are many questions that must be answered. Do I really want this child? Do I have the time, energy and means to care for it? Will my partner survive? Will this jeopardize my career?

“Even if a woman believes that she did the right thing by having an abortion, she can experience various emotions such as sadness or guilt,” Marie-Alexia Allard said. , clinical psychologist and co-founder of the Ensemble Clinic in Montreal. According to him, we must not minimize the psychological impact that an abortion can have on a woman … but that too should not be exaggerated. “Every woman will experience this trial in her own way, according to the story, where she was in her life when it happened and how she managed her emotions.”

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