Latent conception – or delayed conception – results in many couples and single women being forced to procreate with help. The psychological distress suffered by these people is common.
Learning to let go, especially when someone is ready to enter the world of motherhood, is often easier said than done. However …
Fertility and her hidden face
Although fertility decreases by several days in a woman’s cycle, the rate of infertility nearly doubles in 20 years according to Statistics Canada. In 2010, this figure was between 12 and 16%. That’s reality: it’s not easy to have children.
In 2010, 15% of Canadian couples who tried to conceive children used medical help to do so. From this:
2 out of 5 drugs are used to increase fertility
1 in 5 uses assisted reproduction technology
But if infertility refers to difficulties in conceiving a child, it does not mean that it is not possible.
Care available for procreation is assisted
There are various procreative treatments that are helped to help couples who are facing latent fertilization.
Ovarian stimulation: hormone treatment to help women who do not ovulate or who do not ovulate in each cycle
Insemination: injection of spermatozoa into the uterus to fight production problems or mobility of spermatozoa
In Vitro Fertilization (IVF): fertilization in the laboratory to help couples with problems meeting between spermatozoa and their ova
Micro injection fertilization: similar to in vitro fertilization, except that one sperm is selected and injected into an egg
This design assistance service is unfortunately not a magic solution. For example, the live birth rate after IVF is 33% for women under 35 and 24% for women 35-39. That’s why this is a big challenge for people who are brave on this road.
Psychological effects of latent fertilization
The psychological impact is quite large when a partner cannot have children. After several unsuccessful design attempts, the shadow of infertility settles. Women and men may feel influenced in their femininity and masculinity.
The side effects of fertility treatments and mourning are all more painful and can cause misunderstanding, sadness, anger, anxiety, depression or guilt. These are all normal reactions.
Marie-Soleil Baril is a young woman who has followed this path: “During my last insemination, hormones and many failures pushed me into depression that lasted several months. After her miscarriage, Mrs. Baril claimed to be giving up.
Learn to let go
“After two years of testing, I went to the doctor for a fertility clinic recommendation. He told me that I was young and I had to release him! Mrs. Baril was offended.
It is true that the reality of infertility is often underestimated by people who do not live it. When a woman undergoes procreative care with help, it is difficult for her to forget that she is trying to have a baby: mood swings, bruises on the body or weight gain is quite suggestive.
But what if we talk about reducing stress? This is an important skill that must be overcome when couples undergo this ordeal, according to psychologist Katherine Péloquin. Stress reduction through relaxation techniques or even behavior modification will be associated with higher levels of positive care.
By knowing how to let go, it is no longer a victim of stress that makes many women stop being infertile. It is not a matter of leaving someone’s parent’s project, but only accepting one’s situation and then paying more attention to the present.
Resources exist for latent fertilization cases. Don’t hesitate to look for support:
The Quebec Infertility Association offers support and information to infertile couples and people
Women without children here register professionals in the fields of therapy and psychology who are interested in infertility or non-maternity
The Reproductive Health Assistance Blog comes from a group of French infertility and medical aid patients to breed and provide diverse information and testimony about infertility
Éducaloi explains how the law applies to assisted procreation cases
Infertily Network offers news about infertility